To be a hero for anyone else, you first must be a hero to yourself. ~Nadalie Bardo
We all have natural strengths and talents and when we spend the lion’s share of our time and energy engaged in activities that bring out those strengths and talents, most of us will be much more successful and certainly more fulfilled.
But are you letting fear block you from your strengths?
You may not even realize it. In my coaching practice, I’m working with clients every day to go after and attain what they truly desire in their life. Sometimes repeated efforts without results is simply a matter of needing a better strategy but that’s rare.
Two of the most common reasons for not attaining what you truly desire are:
1) Going after goals that are not aligned with your strengths and/or
2) Allowing fear to block you from a relentless pursuit of your goals.
So how do you handle both of these. For #1 — Take the 21-Days to Supercharge Your Strengths Course to help you align your natural talents and strengths with your goals.
Now how to overcome fear…...
From the time I began in the field of personal development, I’ve heard about the importance of modeling others as a way of speeding up the process of creating success. Find out what others who have succeeded thought, what actions they took, what strategies they used — do the same and you’ll get the same results. Great!
And modeling does work — at least a good portion of the time. However, there is an important caveat.
Model people who are similar to you who have created the success you desire.
Sage Kotsenburg just won the first gold of the 2014 Winter Olympics and when he stood at the top of the course at Rosa Khutor Extreme Park on Saturday, he was not sure which tricks he would attempt.
The one that mattered was one he had never attempted. “I just kind of make things up,” he said.
Think of how different this is from other competitors who have spent all winter perfecting runs that they imagined for months.
Which strategy is better for...
Positive reinforcement can be very effective way to be a Strengths Hero for yourself or someone else — whether that means a simple pat on the back or using some other type of positive reinforcement. Positive reinforcement is widely accepted as a powerful method of teaching, training and building positive habits and behaviors and growing talents into strengths.
But WHEN should you give it to yourself or someone else?
Utah State University published a behavioral guidelines checklist which confirms that positive reinforcement is most effective when it occurs immediately after the behavior. The guidelines also recommend the reinforcement should be presented enthusiastically and should occur frequently.
The shorter the amount of time between any talent or behavior you want to reinforce and the subsequent positive reinforcement, the stronger the connection will be in the brain — remember the brain tells us to move TOWARD pleasure and AWAY from pain.