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August 22,
2006
Meta
Decisions
Have you
ever looped endlessly on a decision? I certainly have! In
one of the most confusing and difficult times of my life I
looped on a decision for over one year. At the end of that
time, I inadvertently discovered Meta Decisions
(however, I hadn’t yet named them). By making two Meta
Decisions, I was finally able to pull myself out of the
agonizing loop in which I had lived for much too long.
Actually, those Meta Decisions became my beacons for
making hundreds of subsequent decisions in my life.
Meta
Decisions are the more global decisions you make,
consciously or unconsciously, about your heath,
relationships, finances, career/work, ethics, spiritual
life, personal growth, and in general, what’s most important
to you in your life. A Meta Decision is not related to a
specific situation i.e. whether or not to take this job
or that job but in this example, to your larger needs and
desires in any job you would take. What are you committed
to having in your career and work life? What are the most
important elements of any job you would really want? Once
you answer these types of questions, once you make a Meta
Decision about what you are desire and are committed to
having in a job, deciding between Job A or Job B becomes
much, much easier.
Meta
Decisions become the criteria to measure against when
making a decision. Without that clarity, it’s easy to
flounder and loop on a decision because you have no clear
criteria upon which to base your choices, you have no
guide.
When my
clients are struggling, one of the first things I do with
them is what I call “chunking up”. I help them lift above
the forest in which they are entangled to discover and
commit to what’s truly most important to them.
This
higher level place is where you make Meta Decisions.
For those of you who have read my book, the two most
important Meta Decisions in my life were 1) to live
an ‘E Ticket Life’ and 2) to make sure I leave this earth
without regrets, to never have to save I wish had, or I
should have or what if. I committed to these two decisions
with every ounce of my being and those two Meta Decisions
have been my guides for hundreds, if not thousands, of
small and large decisions in my life.
What
Meta Decisions do you need to make about your life in
general, your health, career/work, relationships, spiritual
life, personal growth, etc.?
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